tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-595853973215122144.post4177863158403273231..comments2023-10-09T02:10:14.163-07:00Comments on No Retreat, Baby, No Surrender: Heaven Help MeMaggie Mayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00938285352213073913noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-595853973215122144.post-32105511253867210192010-01-21T13:18:28.381-08:002010-01-21T13:18:28.381-08:00Great advice guys! I think I will sit on it for a...Great advice guys! I think I will sit on it for a bit, and see if A comes 'round again and/or it seems like a good time to bring it to E. I hope I will know when the situation presents itself.<br /><br />You guys are fantastic! And thanks for not thinking I am completely gonzo. ;)Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00047964322884200472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-595853973215122144.post-74759016115032153922010-01-21T11:05:35.513-08:002010-01-21T11:05:35.513-08:00Hmmm... I don't think I would have thought of ...Hmmm... I don't think I would have thought of Kate's suggestion. Of course from a Communion of Saints persepctive, it makes perfect sense!<br /><br />I tend to be more of a nervous person, so for something like this, I would hesitate. If E was meant to know, would A have been sent to him? I think if you saw A, it's more likely that you were the one who needed it at that moment, where nothing else would do. If you're called upon to reassure E about A, it may be by telling him about your visit, or it may be something more roundabout - a conversation about the times you all had together... so much relies on a small word in the right moment, it's not always about the Big Reveal like on TV.<br /><br />Many years ago, after my Dad passed away, something similar happened with me maybe four or five weeks later. It never felt like something that I should advertise. Your own experience may be different. All I know is that it didn't seem like something I should run out and tell the rest of my family. I'm not sure that they even know, though my wife does, and certain of our closest friends. The circumstances had to be proper for it to be something needful to share.<br /><br />It's a tough spot. Honestly I never considered telling my family. Had someone said that it would be a comfort to them, I would have to puzzle it out, and I don't know what I would do, or how. I'm a great source of advice, right? :) Bottom line, I don't think you should go out of your way to bring it up, but if the conversation takes you there, then trust your heart to disclose what you think is gentlest and most healing.nightflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04666773766092187348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-595853973215122144.post-58600031909060891452010-01-18T16:53:27.482-08:002010-01-18T16:53:27.482-08:00Well, I for one don't think you are crazy. I ...Well, I for one don't think you are crazy. I believe in what my uncle calls "visitations" but for me most times they are songs. (My late friend J and I went to a ton of concerts together.) <br /><br />I don't have any advice, but a question: You asked your late friend A a question--do you think you'd be able to ask _her_ if you should share the experience with E? I don't think it would be her intention to have you stand around guessing about what her visit meant. (Just putting it out there.)Kate Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03555660993363611776noreply@blogger.com